awwsomeways!

In one of my conversations with Fanny, since now I have a super-annoying guy working with me, we ended up discussing ways to get rid of the guys we don’t like. I remember that the ‘Why men love/marry bitches’ books, actually recommended something like this:

Have you ever noticed that the more you ignore a guy that you don’t like, the closer he gets to you? That you seem unable to shake him off your tail? Well, the next time you want to get rid of a guy you don’t like, start acting “CLINGY” and “CONTROLLY” - like start suggesting (not hinting) to him that he should propose to you in a month and how you want to be proposed, and you guys should get married in two months and where to register for the gifts and buy a house and all kinds of marriage things that freak most guys. You can also start acting jealous whenever he talks to any girl, even the cleaning lady, scold him in front of other people to embarass him. That will shake him off your tail alright.

On the other hand, to the man you like the most (and this includes steady boyfriends or hubbies), you need to play hard to get. You need to talk less to him (don’t nag and tell him all your troubles) become less clingy and less controlly. MUCH MUCH LESS. In fact, you can pretend to ignore him once in a while. Don’t sweat the small stuff (even if the small stuff seems BIG to you). If you want him to do something, start suggesting OTHERWISE. It’ll make him think MORE of you, and that you’re one cool happy cucumber.

I have a friend who wanted her boyfriend to cut back from hanging out with the boys too often. Instead of telling him that he should cut back hanging out with the boys, she actually told him to go and have fun. But in the meantime, she made appointments with her girlfriends to have slumber parties at their house and so on. Sometimes she even made dinner appointments with her ex-boyfriends. This actually worked! And instead of retaliating, her boyfriend actually cut back hanging out with the boys to only once a month (which is acceptable), because he didn’t feel comfortable knowing his girlfriend having such a blast with the girls or ex-boyfriends :)

Reverse psychology may seem too manipulative to some people. But I found out that sometimes, that’s really how the world works :). Sometimes we just can’t be too naive and hope for the best, I guess.  

Just when I thought I’ve made peace with the weather in Rotterdam, the cold wind and prickling rain whipped up my face and upturned my umbrella - as if they wanted to make a statement ’it’s every damn bit personal with you, girl!’. And I had to laugh.

The weather in Rotterdam, in my opinion, was doing everything it could to get back at me - such as raining heavily on my head when I was running outside and stopping dead just as I entered a building - though I never knew what I did wrong to it. I lost count as to how many umbrellas that have been sacrificed - from the strongest looking one to the tiny ones which you can put in your purse.

I remember my ex boss telling me that the weather was always very personal with her, she said: “It is always raining whenever I’m cycling through Rotterdam and it stops when I get into a building! It’s as if there’s a small cloud following me everywhere pouring heavy rain onto my head! I always thought it’s somekind of my personal cosmic joke!” -

Of course it’s not, because the rain did the same to me too! Almost all the time!

But it seems that many people in Holland think the weather’s there to screw them personally - especially when they are about to attend big events.

There’s no ‘pawang hujan’ - a.k.a. ‘the rain relocator’ in the area (I wrote a piece about this a long time ago as a personal tribute to the weather in Holland).

All I can say, it’s absolutely great to be back for a while (not planning to move back here again).

Looks like yours truly might have to come back to Rotterdam much earlier than she expected after this visit. Maybe end of Jan to end of Feb ‘10, and then 3rd week of March til end of April. She can only sigh since she doesn’t really like moving around or stay overseas too long anymore - She has a place in Sgp she has to take care of.

Of course, Kevo’s totally psyched about it, he kind of hopes that she will  be back to Holland permanently. Not that she hates this place, really, she loves it. But, she’d rather be closer to home.